Divorce, Babe, Divorce. Adele and the Sensitive Introvert Experience.
Oh, Adele. You did it again. Breaking records with your records. Topping charts with your top hits. It’s incredible, truly. And, oh by the way, you’re only 30? Thanks for sharing your journey with us. An even bigger thank you for the raw honesty and vulnerability you choose to display through your music. I mean, who among us wasn’t moved every time “Hello” came on for months?
As you can imagine, this latest album is giving life to people all over the world. Especially those who have gone through a big breakup or divorce. For sensitive, introverted women, the resonance might be a bit more poignant. Her lyrics. Those melodies. The raw emotion that is brought up...it's certainly going to hit home for many of us.
Hot tip: If you are a recently divorced mom with small children, either skip “My Little Love” or lean into it with a box of tissues.
“I’ll be taking flowers to the cemetery of my heart...”
That first line of the album. Wow. How often have you felt that way? Just…pack it all up. Mourn what was lost and is no longer yours. Right? Here's the thing. Your heart doesn't have to be this cemetery just because you've endured heartbreak. Grieving is good. Honoring the life you used to have is great. And, enjoying the life you are going to live is amazing. Being hopeful about the future is your new task. It may seem impossible at first, but it's absolutely worth it.
“I changed who I was to put you both first but now I give up.”
Well, if that isn't the sensitive, introvert experience, I don't know what is. Always putting others first is something we do all too often and it's simply unacceptable. We literally try to change the fabric of our being in order to fit in to the mold that has been predefined for us. The beautiful part of this line is that she realizes it's not the right path. Putting yourself on the back burner is NOT sustainable, babe! It's just not. I've written about this already, but let's say it again: you do not have to change who you are to fit in to this extrovert-centric world. AND, the world is not going to change for you.
Cry Your Heart Out: Was this song written for sensitive introverts?
“When I walk in a room I’m invisible, I feel like a ghost…I have nothing to feel no more, I can’t even cry." Last month, we discussed socializing in ways that feel authentic to your introvert nature ("introvert problems," am I right?). However, this can be especially difficult right after a breakup or divorce. Honestly, it's the perfect time for a sensitive, introverted woman to fully embrace your "hermit" status and just stay in. Right? Not deal with the prying eyes, curious questions, and pitying stares. While it sounds like a good idea and is probably something you should embrace for a while if you want, you don't have to stay that way forever. Like I said earlier, mourn what was. Get curious about what will be. Then, "clean your face" and do the next right thing for YOU. You are not on anyone's timeline but your own. Truly.
When you’re in doubt, go at your own pace...
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