Stuck in Inaction: The Curse of the Sensitive Introvert
Do you find yourself wanting to make a change, but it just doesn’t feel like the right time?
You know you need to do the thing, but maybe next week, or next month, or next year, will be better?
Surely, things will feel more comfortable for your introverted soul soon, right?
Or, will you always be stuck in inaction?
Doing well, and doing what you know you are good at takes confidence. You know you are good at certain things. Maybe even an expert! Yes, own that confidence. You know what needs to be done. But, something inside is telling you that this isn't the right time. Not because of some divine knowledge of how things might unfold in the future, but because of this fear or desire to avoid the uncomfortable. To avoid feeling like no matter how big your dream or desire is, you can't make yourself take action when the world has so many demands on you.
Don't wait. You're not going to change.
I get it. Introverted women tend to wait to do things until things change or we change…the world is so extroverted. So, we take time to make our changes because we want to feel more comfortable moving through the chaos. This feels safer. Wiser. But, is it really? Let's be totally honest: You’re not going to change. This is it. Yes, the world is built for extroverts, but you can still get things done!
Being stuck in inaction is detrimental to our success.
It feels comfortable-ish but isn't actually productive at all. You can call it whatever you want: planning, preparation, rumination, deliberation, "meditating on it"...but, those are really just words to make us feel better about staying inside of our own heads instead of getting vulnerable with the people around us and putting our genius out into the world! Are you considering going back to school? Getting back into the dating scene? Starting a new business? Moving to a new city? Launching a new career? Having a baby? As a sensitive introvert, even reading this list might give you a nervous feeling in the pit of your stomach. But, that feeling doesn't have to hold you back forever.
Introversion is actually your superpower. Not a reason to stay stuck in inaction.
“Introverts listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror for small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.”
Sensitive, introverted women can be mistaken for self-sacrificing helpers. Or, even withdrawn and thoughtful servant-leaders. Perhaps you are fine with these labels! It's also possible that you have a wealth of knowledge and expertise inside of you just waiting to bubble over and change the world. But, you may think that in order to be successful with your new venture or endeavor, you have to take a "traditional" route with exhausting networking tactics or endless conversations with new people that make your introverted sensibilities cringe. However, the "traditional" route isn't the only one.
Though the world isn't going to get less extroverted, you also don't have to change to "fit in".
Yes, read that again. You don't have to change who you are in order to make a change. You can embrace your true, authentic self, and still, do what you know needs to be done in this loud and chaotic world. Think of one of the most famous introverts, Rosa Parks. She may be best known for refusing to give up her seat in spite of social pressures, but she was causing all sorts of "trouble" quietly for years by leveraging the power of passive resistance and bold determination. She knew that she was fighting for a vitally important cause, but didn't have to hold a megaphone to do it. How can you make a major change and take the action you need to, without trying to become someone else in order to do it?
Perhaps, instead of engaging in exhausting networking at the local Chamber of Commerce or getting on a dating app, you can ask a trusted mentor or friend to connect you to a contact of theirs directly. That way, you can have a strategic, one-on-one conversation with someone instead of engaging in tedious small talk with multiple people. To get to know a new location or career market, do your individual research and then make a list of three places or people to reach out to with specific questions. This type of deliberate action can help you feel more confident and comfortable while giving you the answers and information you need to move forward. Need more help or tips? Let's talk about how I can provide individual coaching for sensitive, introverted women like you!
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